I don’t like to argue about politics. I don’t like to argue about any philosophy, really. I know what I believe is right and I think You are wrong, but I try to be polite enough to keep it to myself. It’s a lot easier to get along with people this way. I have friends who say things I don’t agree with and, generally, that’s fine. I don’t cross them off unless they are truly offensive (but I don’t have friends who would be, so problem solved). Everyone slips up; eventually someone is going to not agree with me, but I try to let it slide.
I’ve tried to do the same thing with bloggers. If I don’t like your content, I try my best not to read your blog! It saves me the energy I waste by getting angry at you because of what you have to say. And hey, I’m sure there are people who don’t like my blog! That’s fine! It’s their problem!
But when you’re going to have a blog that, yes, objectifies women, albeit in what one might think is a gentle, funny, ironic way, you’re gonna make some enemies. Lady enemies! So you also shouldn’t get bent out of shape over it, especially if you’re populating your website with sex fantasies and high-school humor. Sorry, but it’s true! I only assume that’s what’s going on over on Boner Party (which I won’t link to out of principle) because I don’t read it. Why? Well, there are two reasons:
- I’m a gay dude.
- I think it’s sexist.
It’s sexist. It is. The debate, however, is if it’s sexist in a gross, bro-tally dude way, or if the lighthearted “Party” in the title somehow negates the fact that you’re essentially saying, “You know what I’d want to do with this girl? Fuck. I don’t want to chat, watch a movie, or go out to a lovely dinner and then give her a quick peck on the cheek at the end of our date. I want to fuck her.” Now, the rest of you can try to argue about how to read that, but I read it as sexist. Well, I don’t, because I don’t read Boner Party.
What bothers me, though, is that there are people - dudes especially! - who really think that women aren’t so objectified in our culture, that they aren’t given the short end of the stick, and that the reason they have been in that situation for, oh, forever is because they lack some sort of special talent that only men have and truly strive to achieve. Oh, and that it’s perfectly acceptable to talk about how you want to fuck them.
Maybe I’m just a gay dude and therefore not blinded by pussy like the majority of you straight guys, and can behave like a mature and thoughtful adult, but I think I side with the ladies here.
